If you're white and you're wrong, then you're wrong; if you're black and you're wrong, you're wrong. People are people. Black, blue, pink, green - God make no rules about color; only society make rules where my people suffer, and that why we must have redemption and redemption now. 
Bob Marley

You don't learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.

Rules

Just put in place to to be tested, to see you can handle authority.
The rules can be broken if you handle it in the correct way.
Never take as an option you can always negotiate, just don't argue actually have serious conversations where you can find a middle ground which you both comfortable on.
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